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THE SECRET TO LASTING MALE RELATIONSHIPS
“Definitive…. Thoughtful… Beckstrand...delivers multiple supportive arguments and…refreshing…candor.” – The BookLife Prize (Publisher’s Weekly)
Karl W. Beckstrand has realized most of his bucket list: In Silicon Valley he worked for IBM and Intel. He lived abroad—visiting four continents. He got a B.A. in journalism and an M.A. in conflict resolution. He interned for a Massachusetts publisher and for Congress in D.C. He teaches college media and is the bestselling author of 27 diverse books—winning a 2016 International Book Award and garnering praise from Publisher’s Weekly and School Library Journal. He was a volunteer chaplain at Stanford University Hospital and an in-flight Spanish-English interpreter for Angel Flight (medical nonprofit). He had a rock band; he can build a P.C., water and snow ski, and kayak. But he was self-focused, and his relationships were pitiful. Beckstrand knows a power beyond his brought him to deep-rooted, solid relating.
Our greatest joys come via relationships, yet lasting relationship bliss can be elusive. Beckstrand has learned that men were made to love each other profoundly. He shares a key to fulfilling long-term bonding—regardless of sexual orientation. As you realize your true needs are being met, contentedness and generous feelings can replace discouragement, even addiction. What Beckstrand has learned applies to men, women, gay, straight, single, and married.
Chapters include:
• Beyond Either/or Thinking
• Freedom & Options
• How Men Were Made to Connect
• The Key to Lasting Relationships
• Essential Elements of Deep Connection
• How to Not Miss Out
45,000 words, 200 pages, hard/soft/ebook/audio, PathsPress (worldwide rights © Nov. 2022), libraries, and all major distributors. FAM021000, YAN051110, FAM056000, FAM006000, SEL041040, SEL008000, HEA042000, OCC019000, YAN009000, SEL040000; Hard ISBN: 978-1951599140 $32.95 (soft: $23.95 Available Sept. 2022)
Paths Press, an imprint of Premio Publishing
Attain the Fulfilling, Lasting Same-sex Relationships God Wants for you
“Honest…. Engaging and thoughtful perspective on relationships, sexuality, and faith…. Beckstrand…delivers…an abundance of reflective…definitive ideas…. Readers will value the author’s…candor… relating to meaningful relationships…which lends it distinction and is refreshing to read.” – The BookLife Prize (Publisher’s Weekly)
College media instructor Karl W. Beckstrand has lived a full life (including abroad—visiting four continents). He earned a B.A. in journalism and an M.A. in conflict resolution. He was a technical recruiter in Silicon Valley, a Stanford Hospital chaplain, and a Spanish interpreter for Angel Flight (aviator nonprofit). But his relationships were far from satisfying. Today, Beckstrand enjoys profound lasting bonds.
Regardless of marital status or sexual orientation, every person has God-given needs for love and true union, including connection with those of one’s own sex. Yet, long-term relationship bliss can be elusive for just about anyone. But has anything taken God by Surprise? God not only accepts queerness—it is, expressed in His way, part of His plan for our happiness. There are more kinds of connection than we know—happier than the sparse paths the world often signals.
God can help us fulfill our needs while honoring His will; and generous feelings can replace discouragement, isolation, lust, even addiction. Beckstrand shares scriptural keys to healing relationships and creating deep lasting same-sex bonds. What he has learned applies to women, men, gay, straight, single, and married people.
Are you or someone you love wrestling with faith and LGBTQIA+ questions or conflicts? This book offers insights to bolster confidence in God’s love for each person and His purposes for all our differences. Chapters include:
Get these insights for someone you love. Beckstrand is the best-selling author of 26 books and winner of a 2016 International Book Award (reviews by Publisher’s Weekly, Kirkus, and School Library Journal). 56,000 words, 220 pages, 8.5”x5.5” hard/soft cover, ebook and audiobook, Paths Press (PathsPress worldwide rights © Aug. 2022), libraries, and all major distributors. SEL046000, FAM029000, YAN048010, YAN006150, BIO018000, BIO031000, FAM030000, FAM051000, OCC011020, OCC019000, SEL032000, YAN029000, YAN048030, YAN018020, YAN006090, YAN032000, YAN051040, YAN051240, HEA042000; LCCN: 2022937790, hard ISBN: 978-1951599157 $32.95 (soft $23.95, 978-1951599164,Sept. 12, 2022, audiobook Nov. 2022) eISBN: 9781005507831
He encontrado que dicha es relaciones profundas que duran. La necesidad que Dios nos dio a todos es conexión profunda con los de nuestro propio sexo. Pero esa conexión es único a la que existe entre los hombres y las mujeres — y no tiene nada que ver con el sexo. El sexo es una distracción de la verdadera manera de relatar con los del mismo sexo y destruye lo puede durar de la relación entre los hombres o de entre las mujeres.
Yo he conocido a parejas gay — unidos felizmente por décadas — pero lo lograron al dejar al / al no tener sexo. Son las únicas parejas que conozco de gente del mismo sexo que son felices en una unión monógama y realmente duradera (y yo he conocido a muchas parejas.) Si antes han sido sexuales juntos, aun puedan reparar a la conexión.
La euforia del sexo no es amor (aunque muchos de nosotros lo confundimos con amor.) La euforia / el gusto no es conexión — y nunca dura. Al confundir a algo tan temporal como la euforia con el amor garantiza que uno dejará de estar enamorado por un largo tiempo.
Lo que tú y yo necesitamos es conexión verdadera y duradera con los de nuestro propio sexo (no importa si uno es casado / atraído al sexo opuesto.) La mejor manera de recibir lo que realmente necesitamos de los de nuestro propio sexo (aun hasta superar a la adicción) es disfrutarse de toda afección y conexión — sin confundir a nuestra atracción con un deseo de relacionarse con ellos sexualmente.
Sé que Dios ha dado a ciertas personas una atracción a gente del mismo sexo de uno. Sé que él ama a los gayes y tiene maravillosos propósitos en esa atracción. Pero tenemos que dar oído a lo que Dios nos ha dicho en cuanto a esas relaciones (y no tan solo a los mandamientos de “¡NO!”): Escudríñense en la biblia las relaciones entre el rey David y Jonatán o las relaciones entre Cristo y Juan en amado. (También sé que todos estaremos dichosamente conformes con como estaremos en las eternidades).
Desde que he estado conectando y abrazando a mis amigos sin buscar al sexo (y lo hacemos por largos tiempos:) mis relaciones han sido más profundas y duraderas y mis deseos para el sexo se han bajado hasta casi cero. Desde que he disfrutado de conexión verdadera y duradera con los de mi sexo, ni he pensado en masturbarme (por muchos años.) No es cosa de resistir o esforzarme; no se me ocurre. Me siento recontento.